Perfection is overrated.
When you meet new people, I urge you to study their imperfections. Do they have an awkward laugh? Do they give a limp handshake? Are they absolutely terrible at taking a compliment? It's worth observing because I guarantee you'll be able to tell more about a person from their imperfections than from their perfections.
Perfect people are boring. A face that wears a few freckles, a scar and a slightly crooked nose bares infinite stories and far more than any perfectly symmetrical and spotless face ever could. Flaws are beautiful in their own way. A person is built by their past and if their past leaves physical scars or just scars of memory, their stories become better than the best works of fiction. They may have a twisted view of the world but this flaw or any flaw is a novel that gradually becomes known to you. You read their body language, their spoken words and the words that escape from their eyes.
The same goes for relationships and friendships. If you both like exactly the same music, agree on all the same political views, have the same opinions about every film and television show then life becomes dull and nothing new will pass your lips. Conversation will become shallow. I'd rather argue my view point and passionately rant about why I don't believe in God to a committed Christian than waste my words trying to persuade someone who never needed persuasion to begin with.
When you find someone new to love, your rhythms will always be out of balance at the start. You may stumble over sentences, bump heads when leaning in to kiss, hold hands the wrong way round - clumsy. But it's the journey of discovery, the exploration of the tiny details that are really the most wonderful. Perhaps you won't be totally different and perhaps you'll share a lot in common but if that person was really so similar to you then you wouldn't even be with them. You might as well become asexual.
Plato wrote in his Symposium.. "According to Greek Mythology humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search for their other halves"
Whilst the notion may be fantasy, it rings true that perhaps those who we are most compatible with are different to ourselves. Perhaps their tendency to view things in a positive light is more prominent than yours but their capacity for mood swings may be larger. There is always something lacking and if you fit like a puzzle piece to smooth out the imperfections, you know something is right.
Forget plastic surgery. Forget trying to like the 'coolest' music. Forget about your habits. Forget about your emotional issues.
I'd rather know someone with a thousand things to figure out. I'd rather have someone I get annoyed with from time to time. I'd rather look at imperfections. I guess imperfections are what makes someone perfect.
